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Positivity Is The Real Power:

(PC: Hari Nair)

• Positivity is an Attitude. It is a powerful psychological tool. It is a power. A superpower.

• Positivity is that attitude, it is that power, which can solve the biggest problem of your life in just a fraction of seconds.

• Positivity takes no time to kill your depression.

• Once you are positive, then there is no one who can change your mind. There will be not a single negative thought which can change your mind. There will be no fear which can stop you.

• You become unstoppable if you are positive.

• Positivity will helps in taking right decisions.

• Positivity is that power which will take you to the right direction. Also, if you are going in a wrong direction then positivity is that power which can make that direction right.

• One of the best reason to be positive is, it will make you physically and mentally fit.

• Positivity is a hope. Hope for something to happen. Something, which may be the worst, but we still hope for good.

• A person having a positive attitude will always look at the bright side of life. 

• Positivity says: 'I can', 'It is Possible', 'I will succeed'.
• Negativity says: 'I cant', 'It is not possible, 'I will Fail'. 

Let us end this topic with two short stories discussing "The Power Of Positivity":

Life Lessons:

Life lessons are something which inspires others. They can be mistakes of someone or they can be thoughts of some others.

(PC: Hari Nair)

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While reading some contents on Quora.com, I got an idea to give you some life lessons what I and my some best friends have experienced personally. 

Things You Should Keep In Your Mind:

1. Never compare yourself with others. Comparing yourself to others leads you to hate yourself somewhere. 

2. Be fearless. Once you are fearless then no external force will be able to stop you.

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(Be Fearless)

3. Follow your passion, it will definitely make you reach success. While Following your passion, you will never get bored. You will always enjoy it.

4. Studying is very easier than following your passion. Yes, it's true. You have the proper path for studying but you don't have a proper path for your passion. You have to struggle for it.

5. Know yourself thoroughly. If you don't know yourself, then I'm pretty sure that you can't achieve anything. Be truthful to yourself.

6. Be aware when you are awake. There is always more to learn and observe every day. You will get time to sleep in the night. :p

7. Be fit :p. Do regular workout at least for 45 minutes per day. It will make you physically as well as mentally fit.

8. Never argue for anything which is right. You don't need to argue for anything which is right. Anything which is right is a fact itself. You don't need to prove it through arguing.

9. Never make your parents upset. Making your parent upset is the worst thing you can do. Your parents may support you or they may not support you, but that doesn't mean they don't love you. They love you more than anyone can.

10. Respect others. If you respect others, they will respect you more. Disrespecting others will show your poor mentality.

11. NEVER GIVE UP. Everyone use to say this, but no one follows it. There are two possibilities: Success or failure. If you follow "Never Give Up" then you may succeed or you may fail. But if you don't follow "Never Give Up" then you are definitely going to fail.

12. Don't underestimate yourself. You are more than you think. Underestimating yourself is disrespecting yourself.

13. Sometimes you need to Be selfish. Thinking for yourself is good if it doesn't harms anybody. If it harms anybody then you will be cruel.

14. Control your anger before it destroys you. Anger is that emotion which will always lead you to think aggressively. It will harm others but it will destroy you.

15. Always take decisions when your mind is calm. This is a subpart of our last point. While your mind is calm, you can think more and you will find the right decisions.

16. Be patient. Patience is the most powerful psychological tool. You can achieve everything if you have patience. It will never make you regret.

17. Friendship needs care for each other. Friends simply means a person with whom you have a mutual affection (except sexual relation or family relation). If you have a mutual affection with a person then you must care about him/her. 

18. Don't trust your best friends BLINDLY. They can be more cruel from your biggest enemy. Its true somewhere. Trust them but not BLINDLY.

19. Be persistence with your passion. Keep trying your passion with constant practice without caring about the results or consequences.

20. Attitude is everything. Attitude here means positive attitude. Do everything in attitude. Your attitude will show your personality,confidence and mentality.

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21. Kindness matters a lot. If you are kind to others, then they will respect you. And respect is more than anything else. Agree? Also they will be kind to you.

22. Self- confidence helps you to grow. Confident on yourself, will always provoke you to achieve something more than the last performance. It will help you in growing.

23. Over-confidence will definitely sink you. You can do it, its your confidence. Only you can do it, it's your over confidence. If you are overconfident on yourself, it means you are underestimating those who can perform better than you.

24. Fear is mostly an illusion. Once you start performing, your all fear will vanish. Its just an emotion. You can't conquer it completely, but you can control it.

25. Try to experiment something new. Try to be creative. Again, if you try something new, you may succeed or you may fail. But if you dont try something new, then you are definitely going to achieve nothing.

26. Be a good speaker. You must learn how to speak. Speaking doesnt mean speaking unnecessarily. Good speaker always speaks right. They dont argue for anything. 

27. Be a good listener. Before speaking anything, you must be a good listener. Listen to others as much as you can. Then act accordingly.

28. Be self-dependent. Depend on yourself. See yourself through the eyes of yours. You can conclude more about yourself. You will know yourself  more.

29. Follow Humanity. Respect others choice, help others irrespective of religion, caste, colour, etc. It will increase your moral and it will bring peace in your mind.

30. Do works based on your priority. Most of the time, We all do what we dont like. We all do the things which will makes our family/friends/partner's happy. We dont care about our priority, which will lead you to regret later in your life.

31. While in a relationship, give priority to your partner.They are with you because they think you love them more than anyone can. And if they are with you, then it's your responsibility to give them priority. Show them that you really cares.

32. Never get carried away with your success. That's the point where every newbie successful people takes the wrong step. Success is just a result. You have to keep learning and you have to keep going on.

33. Try to touch the sky but your feet should be on the ground. Always try to be down-to-earth type. We all want to touch the sky, but our feet should be in ground. We can fall from that height too.

34. Take Risks but with proper plans.Yes, you have to take risk just to achieve something but with proper plans. You have to make a plan B always if your first plan doesn't works.

35. Failure is good. Failure is an opportunity to perform the same task again with having proper knowledge. So never be upset whenever you fails.

36. Mistakes are acceptable if you learn something from it. Mistakes happens. So better learn from your mistakes and try not to repeat them again in your life.

37. Have a Leadership quality in yourself. Nobody born as a leader. They adapt leadership. If they can became leader then you also can adapt leadership. You can also be leader.

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38. Don't run after Perfection. It may make your work boring because you already did that thousands of time just to make yourself perfect in only a particular work. Your potential will be limited only to a particular work.

39. Have some mental strategies. This will increase your potential of thinking and performing. You can perform in every field if you have better mental strategies.

40. Your body won't give up before your mind. That's true. If you dont give up with your mind, then your body will not give up. If your body doesn't give up then you can perform more. If you can perform more then you can achieve more. And if you can achieve more then it will give you inner satisfaction.

41. Rest is necessary. You work hard all the day so your body needs rest. It will make you physically fit as well as mentally fit. Taking rest is also help you in thinking more.

42. Improvement is must. Self-improvement will help you in performing good and growing every single day.

43. Don't do the things in which you are not interested. Neither for anything nor for anyone. Otherwise they will use you the most.

44. Try to be happy always. Happiness will maintain our surrounding environment cool. It will maintain our mind calm and helps us in taking good decisions.

45. Make a plan every day. And try to Achieve that before you sleep. Time is never going to stop, so you have to do everything according to time. Better dont waste your time and achieve at least something every day. It will make you proud.

46. Learn from everything. You must have learning attitude. Learning will help you in gaining knowledge and a person with lots of knowledge can't be defeated easily.

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47. Focus on positivity rather than negativity. Negativity is like poison which is going to kill you and your performance somehow. 

48. Start saying 'NO' to others if you really dont want to do that particular work. If you can't say NO to others, then you can be used by them.

49. You become what you think. So think wisely, it's your life. If you think negative, then the result will be definitely negative and vice-versa. 

50. TRY TO HAVE A GREAT PERSONALITY. A person having a great personality is always praised. It will also help you to improve your overall mentality.

        - Maruf Shahraj Choudhury 👑

Be FEARLESS :

(PC: Hari Nair)

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"Fearless" doesn't mean eliminating fear from your life, but to leverage fear. We can't eliminate fear but we can control it. So keep this in your mind whenever I say "be fearless".

(Meaning of Leverage)

Before we conquer the fear, we must know "What is fear?". Some brilliant people say "it's very important to know the enemy before we start fighting with them". So we must know about the fear. Let me start with "what is fear ?".

Fear is an emotion which will stop us and basically divert our concentration from any other work we want to do. Fear is one of the most crippling emotions.

If you have fear, it means you are not living in present life. You are living in your mind. You are living in your thoughts. You are living in future. If You are living in future, it means you're living in something which does not happen yet.
So basically your fear is dependent on results/consequences. The results/consequences to which you are afraid of, it may happen or may not happen. And for that particular consequence, you forgot to enjoy the present and moat of the time, you don't even do the work for which you are afraid of. Do you get it?

There are various things of which we are afraid of(You can relate here). For eg. Ghosts, darkness, height, water, public speaking(most common), results of our school's/college's exams and many others.
Just open your mind for a while and focus here, these all above-mentioned fears are in the future tense. These are yet not happened. It may happen or it may not happen.
Your school's/college's result may be good or may be bad. Your speech in front of people may be good or may not be good. These consequences are all in the future tense.
(Once you had given your exams or speech, it's already too late to be afraid of the result... So better prepare well before and give your 100% while performing.)

Once you had performed, try to learn as much as you can from the performance, then focus on the next target.

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Let us discuss the stage phobia topic more deeply. I find it interesting. Why are you afraid of speaking in front of people? Suppose if I give any seminar on any topic, can you ask me any question in front of 100's of people? There will be definitely some doubts on your mind but you can't ask me.
Can you ask me that doubt if there is nobody except me and you? I'm pretty sure that You will ask then.
So what's the problem in front of 100's of people?

Do you know the meaning of self-image?
We look ourselves through the eyes of other people. There doesn't even exist the self-image. We don't believe ourselves. We believe what other people are saying.
So the fear in the case of asking questions, we think "If I ask any question then How other people are going to react with it?". "what if they boo me down?". " What if they start laughing at my question?".
These things come to your mind or not? Yes, Of course.

This simply means we are dependent on others. We depend on the thoughts of people around us.
If your any friend says "Hey bro, you are looking handsome". And you thought that you are really looking handsome, no matter how much worse are you looking.
If your friend says "Your haircut is not good this time. Your older hairstyle is way better." Though you like your new haircut more, you start thinking that if he is saying that, then maybe it's true.
This is how we are dependent on others. We never see ourselves with our own eyes. This is the reason why we get tensed when someone uses abusive words for us.

The biggest question now is " How to conquer it?". I will tell you how to conquer it.

How To Conquer The Fear:-

We talk about fear and found that we are afraid of the result/consequences which is going to happen once we performed. And the result will come in future. 

So the basic thing to conquer the fear is to 'stop thinking about results.' If you do so, it will help you to enjoy the present moment. It will make you more stress-free.

We all know about Mr. Sandeep Maheshwari. According to him,"there are two types of consequences: Physical and psychological.Stop thinking about the psychological consequences and start making plans for physical consequences."

If you are afraid of anything you are going to do, first of all, understand that fear. Then think about whether it's physical or psychological fear.
Start Making plans for physical fears. And for psychological fear you have to use your mind and think whether it's going to harm you or not. If that fear is for (in typical Indian style) "Log kya kehenge?" or " Society mai hamari izzat kya reh jayegi?" , these all are psychological fear. Thoughts of other people will not harm you.

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Let's take some example to understand it,

Suppose if you are going to jump from the mountain, then what's that fear? Is it physical or psychological? It is physical. So make plans before jumping from a mountain. (If its necessary for you to jump from the mountain, then do "Bungee Jumping".)

If you are going to give a speech in front of a crowd, then which type of fear is that? That is psychological fear. So for this, use your mind and think whether it's going to harm you or not. Of course not. Giving a speech in front of a crowd will not harm you anyway.

Start being dependent on yourself. In the case of asking a question, if you think that you have doubt in a particular thing, then ask it. Even If the other laughs, it will not harm you.
For eg. If someone tells you," You are not looking good in that particular dressing style." but if you like that particular dressing style then you must wear it. No matter, what others think. Do you get it?
So being dependent on yourself is the best solution here.
Always remember this quote, "Kill the fear before it kills you".

(A Interesting Fact About Fear:-
It's estimated that over 160,000 children miss their schools every day due to the fear of attack or intimidation by other students.)


If we combine them all, according to me,
"Fear is that rock which is tied to your neck with the help of a rope, inside the water bodies. Ultimately It will sink you.
So better, Cut that rope which is tied to that rock to your neck and be safe."

Fear is all about your thinking. Think wisely.
"If you stop yourself doing something you like, rather than stop listening to others who have nothing to do with your life, then continue to do the same. It's your life after all".
           - Maruf Shahraj Choudhury